My thoughts on weight loss.
It’s one of the very first questions I get asked when I tell people I have a course on how to be ‘cool with food’:
Does the course help you lose weight?
Because of that, I want to be clear where I stand.
I believe that if a woman genuinely wants to lose weight* that she should not be shamed into feeling bad about it, and guilted into (yet another imposed ideal of) thinking that she needs to love her body as it is.
However. And it’s a BIG however…
I also believe that if a woman is thick, or curvy, or ‘heavier’, or whatever word you’re comfortable using for a chick that doesn’t fit into your version of ‘thin’, that she should also not be shamed into feeling as though she should lose weight. She deserves to love her body as it is.
*If she does want to lose it, that’s where we need to get curious and ask some questions around the ideal image she holds of her body, and a whole lot of other factors.
If she doesn’t want to lose weight, then I don’t have much to say other than “Good for her.”. And really, what does anyone else’s opinion matter anyway?
There is a growing body of research showing us that true health is attainable far outside our current definitions of ‘healthy’.
It all comes down to YOUR standards, how fit you’d like to be, how you want to be with food, and what you feel comfortable with as a felt experience in your own body.
When it comes to weight loss, it’s really up to you and that’s the most important part of this story.
If you genuinely feel that you’d have a more energized, more vital life if you lost ____ pounds, then it’s perfectly within your right to pursue that goal.
If you’ve battled the same ___ pounds for ___ years, you’re done with the struggle, and you want to just start focusing on health (not weight loss) and accepting yourself as you are… well that’s frickin awesome and I congratulate you. Body autonomy, baby.
All of my students are encouraged to focus on the way, not the weight.
The journey, not the destination.
The process, not the result.
The question really is: How do you want to be with food?
Once you get clear on that and drop the silly rollercoaster of the diet cycle, you’ll find yourself getting into a rhythm with eating that feels good to you.
Then, regardless of your intentions around weight loss, as you work to un-learn a lifetime of diet mentality and programming, you’re nurturing a way with food that supports your inner health and the experience of living in your body.
In short, my thoughts on weight loss don’t matter as much as your thoughts around how you can feel best in your body and enjoy as much peace in your life as possible.