Last week, I found a message in an empty bottle of Jack Daniels lodged in the sand at the beach.
At first I was delighted. A message in a bottle! I wondered how many years it had been swirling around in the ocean, and what meaningful contents it contained.
I picked it up and could make out a sign-off on one of the papers…
As I was driving to see Joker the first time, I felt a feeling I’d never felt before: I had murmurs of fear about being shot in a movie theatre.
I have a few friends who are excellent listeners. They’re not just good at receiving, but at making people feel received.
But one thing I’d love for these friends to do better is expect the person they’re conversing with to also listen to them.
I was with a girlfriend Saturday night, and I told her that only five people signed up for our webinar, three of whom were us.
She was a-couple-glasses-of-wine-honest, and she sighed dramatically:
Babe. I'm just so sick of talking about food.
At first I kinda felt like I got punched in the gut. Then, I realized that this is what had been on my mind for weeks, since we started to finish my course.
I too am sick of talking about food.
What do we do when it’s chilly? We eat warm, scrumptious breakfasts, that’s what.
I freaking love batch cooking oats so I can just throw them in a pot, add some coconut cream (because you can always use more coconut cream) and let them warm while I do other stuff. Like sit beside my fireplace and record Instagram Stories with my dog.
So, with no further witty banter… because I know that’s a huge peeve for recipe sites, Here’s our raspberry steal cut oats with coconut cream . You can whip these up in a breeze - no stirring required because we all know how hard it is to stir.
I’m trying this new fad called "starting small" and just doing the thing, after a very long time spent thinking I need to do everything super well. You just don't.
I call it "learned mediocrity". Basically, high standards can totally mess with you and your goals, so sometimes you gotta try and go medium instead of large. It's a learned skill that will serve you well if you want to show up, take more chances, and create meaningful change in your life.
Topical Steroid Withdrawal is a ridiculous condition caused by the use of topical steroids for skin conditions like eczema and psoriasis. When I say ‘ridiculous’, I’m resisting the temptation to go all melodrama on you and call it horrific and life-threatening. Suffice to say it’s all of those things. And I’ve been going through it for three years in November.
“I like your body right now,” she said. “You look better with a bit more weight on you.”
I stopped and took a breath. Felt the heat of the coffee cup in my palm and the gravel under my feet.
She has no idea.
The first time I remember being told that my body wasn’t “good enough” as it was (a message that women of all ages are sadly very familiar with), I was in fifth grade and we’d just gotten our class picture back. To my surprise, a couple of the boys came up to me together and pointed out how “big” I looked in the photo.